A 29-year-old woman has rekindled her relationship with an ex who broke her heart a year ago, but she struggles with anxiety that he might leave her again unexpectedly.
She explains that they had a short relationship about a year ago, and he ended it because he entered it too soon after breaking off his engagement. He claimed it was about timing and not feeling ready. Although she doubted his excuse, she accepted it.
Recently, they bumped into each other at a pub and decided to give things another go. They have enjoyed several dates, but she finds herself second-guessing his actions and worrying about whether he is seeing other women when they are apart.
Despite having no reason to suspect he is dishonest, she cannot relax and enjoy the relationship. She wants something serious with lasting potential, not a casual fling.
Coleen's Advice
Coleen Nolan acknowledges that he was honest about not being ready for a serious relationship before, which may have been true. Timing could be different now, making reconnection feel right.
She advises taking things slowly and enjoying the dating process. If he leaves again, she should make it clear that there are no more chances. He cannot boomerang in and out of her life.
Developing trust takes time and deeper understanding. It is important to be honest about fears of being hurt again. She should state that she will trust he has resolved his issues but respects herself too much to allow someone to walk in and out of her life.
