A parent has ignited a debate online after revealing they received what they considered a 'rude' wedding invitation via text message, just two weeks before the ceremony. The user, posting on Mumsnet under the handle @BatFink260, shared the message from their cousin, the bride, which said: 'Hey…I’m getting married in two weeks’ time. Obviously you’re invited but I do understand with [the] baby you may not want to come.'
The guest, who lives in the same city as the bride, expressed surprise at the informal nature of the invite. They noted that they had always thought they had a good relationship with their cousin, albeit not a close one. The bride's message included the church and dinner details but lacked any formal invitation or personal warmth, leading the recipient to feel it was 'intentionally lukewarm'.
As of 29 April, the post had attracted over 160 comments. Many Mumsnet users sided with the original poster, suggesting the bride was either forced to invite them or that it seemed an afterthought. One comment read: 'She was probably forced to invite you but it doesn’t sound like she wants you there.' Another described the timing as 'bizarre', implying the guest may not have been on the original list.
However, some users defended the bride, arguing she was simply being considerate of the guest's circumstances with a young baby. One person wrote: 'Maybe she just didn’t want you to feel pressured to attend. They wouldn’t have invited you if they didn’t want you there.' Another admitted to using similar phrasing in the past to offer a graceful exit, though they now recognised it could be misinterpreted.
