The festive season, often painted with optimism and cheer, harbours a surprising danger for singles, according to a leading relationship expert. Perth-based matchmaker Louanne Ward warns that December can be the most perilous time of year to date, as our emotions run high and our defences drop.
Why the Holidays Heighten Dating Risks
Louanne Ward, who shares candid dating tips with her 26,000 Instagram followers, explains that the holiday spirit uniquely impacts our romantic judgement. The collective mood of hope and romance can amplify feelings of loneliness, making individuals more vulnerable. "Your guard is down, mood is high and your heart is open," she notes. This emotional openness, while beautiful, can blind people to glaring red flags, leading them into unsuitable relationships.
Six Types of Men to Spot This Season
While December can be a fine time to meet someone, Louanne stresses that not all daters have honourable intentions. She has identified six distinct male archetypes to be wary of during the festive period and beyond.
The Love Bomber
First is the 'love bomber', who arrives with overwhelming intensity. This man showers a new partner with excessive attention, extravagant gifts, and constant communication. During the holidays, this behaviour can be mistakenly read as romantic generosity. "Love bombing isn't romance. It's control disguised as affection," Louanne clarifies. The expert warns this whirlwind is a tactic to create attachment before the victim sees the person's true nature.
The 'It's Complicated' Man
Next is the man with a messy backstory, full of convenient excuses. He may speak of relationships "on the rocks", separate bedrooms, or waiting until after Christmas for difficult conversations. Louanne's advice is blunt: "It's not complicated. They're not single. They're not free. You're just getting pulled into a mess."
The Player
The December social calendar, packed with parties and events, is a perfect playground for the player. Charismatic and knowing exactly what to say, he thrives on the thrill of the chase for a dopamine rush. Louanne cautions that while you might feel a connection is building, you are likely just one of many targets during this busy season.
The Desperate Dater
This man seems almost too keen, treating dating "like an Olympic sport". He is always available, accommodates all your plans, and seeks constant validation. Initially flattering, this neediness quickly becomes exhausting. "You're not their person, you're their emergency contact," Louanne states, highlighting a foundation built on fear of loneliness rather than genuine compatibility.
The Rebounder
Fresh out of a relationship, the rebounder believes he is ready to move on, but is often simply starved for attention. Things escalate quickly because he knows the script. However, Louanne estimates 90% of rebounds fail within three months, leaving the new partner alone by the New Year when his emotional unavailability surfaces.
The Gift: The One Worth Waiting For
Amidst the warnings, Louanne offers hope, identifying one type as a true 'gift'. This man is genuinely available, emotionally ready, and mirrors your sincere intentions. He has the time and energy to invest in something real, with no hidden agendas or festive deadlines. "They genuinely want to know you," she affirms.
Essential Advice for Singles
Before diving into a holiday romance, Louanne urges a moment of reflection. She advises singles to ask one critical question: "Are you their gift or stocking filler?" This simple prompt can help differentiate between a meaningful connection and a fleeting seasonal fling. By staying aware of these six archetypes, singles can navigate the festive dating scene with their eyes wide open, potentially avoiding heartache and finding something truly special.
