Gay Anglican Priest Questions Church of England's Ban on Same-Sex Blessings
In a poignant reflection on identity and policy, a gay Anglican priest from Scotland has voiced his dismay over the Church of England's continued prohibition of same-sex blessing ceremonies. The Very Reverend Kelvin Holdsworth, provost of St Mary's Cathedral in Glasgow, contrasts his experience north of the border with the situation in England, where recent decisions have deepened divisions.
A Border That Changes Everything
For Holdsworth, crossing from Scotland into England transforms his role dramatically. In Scotland, as part of the Scottish Episcopal Church, he marries same-sex couples with the same ease as heterosexual pairs, baptises their children, and conducts funerals. He even envisions his own wedding someday, celebrated with choir songs, bell rings, and a grand ceilidh.
However, in England, he gains what he calls a curious superpower—being labelled as a figure who could allegedly disrupt the worldwide Anglican Communion and challenge established institutions like the monarchy and House of Lords. This perception stems from decades of resistance within the Church of England to recognising gay relationships.
The End of a Decade-Long Debate
The Church of England's General Synod has recently concluded the Living in Love and Faith process, a ten-year discussion that promised change but delivered none. Despite resources and efforts, it ended without allowing same-sex marriages in parish churches or enabling clergy to marry their partners. Holdsworth notes the irony that such rebuffs often occur around Valentine's Day, adding a layer of cruelty to what he describes as oh-so-politely delivered snubs.
This outcome, he argues, pleases no one and reinforces the view that the Church of England is behind the times. It forces some couples to travel to Scotland for weddings and leaves clergy in a state of limbo regarding their personal lives and career prospects.
A Different Approach in Scotland
Nine years ago, the Scottish Episcopal Church took a divergent path. Instead of seeking unanimity on same-sex marriage, it focused on living with differences and respecting individual consciences. This allowed priests like Holdsworth the freedom to perform such ceremonies while permitting others to abstain without coercion.
Holdsworth highlights that this change did not lead to the collapse of the Anglican Communion, which remains as messy as ever. Instead, it brought two forms of joy: the deep satisfaction of celebrating love and the relief from endless, painful debates. He credits this to holy common sense prevailing north of the border.
Looking Ahead
The disparity between England and Scotland underscores broader issues of inclusion and tradition within religious institutions. As the Church of England grapples with its stance, voices like Holdsworth's call for a more compassionate and pragmatic approach, one that acknowledges modern realities without sacrificing core values.
