Daily Star agony aunt Jane O'Gorman addresses two reader dilemmas: a man secretly sleeping with his mate's girlfriend and another dealing with a messy partner.
Secret Affair with Mate's Girlfriend
A reader, identified as 'Naughty games', confesses to a six-week affair with his friend's girlfriend. She visits daily for vodka and sexual games, including naked romps, using a neighbor's hot tub, and filming each other. The reader's partner suspects something, noticing changed toilet rolls or misplaced towels. He lies about imaginary business contacts visiting.
Jane O'Gorman advises: 'Stop playing games and sort your life out. Everything will come crashing down eventually.' She warns the lover is only in it for fun, being bored and angry with her boyfriend. Jane urges the reader to come clean, apologize, and ask for forgiveness, even if it means losing his partner and friend.
Life with a Messy Partner
Another reader, 'Life of grime', complains his new girlfriend is unbelievably messy. Four months into living together, the flat is a tip. He does all cleaning, while she says housework bores her. The bathroom is disgusting, and he cannot invite friends over for a house-warming party.
Jane suggests the girlfriend may not know better if she grew up in a chaotic home. She advises explaining that dirt harms health and emotions, and making cleaning a joint project. 'Be ruthless with recycling and charity stops. Once tidy, it's easy to maintain.' If they cannot get on the same wavelength, Jane says to rethink the arrangement.
