Child development experts from Australia are advocating for a revolutionary approach to nappy changes that could transform how children learn about consent and bodily autonomy from their earliest days.
The New Approach to Nappy Changing
Dr Katherine Bussey and Dr Nicole Downes, early childhood researchers from Deakin University, argue that what most parents consider a routine childcare task should become an opportunity for teaching fundamental lessons about appropriate touching and personal boundaries.
The researchers emphasise that parents shouldn't wait until children can speak to begin these important conversations about consent. Instead, they suggest using nappy changes as ideal moments to model respectful behaviour and bodily autonomy, even with pre-verbal infants.
Practical Strategies for Parents
In their article published on The Conversation, the experts outlined specific techniques parents can implement immediately. Rather than expecting coherent responses from babies, they recommend using language to narrate the entire nappy changing process.
"Ensure your child knows what is happening," the researchers advise. "Get down to their level and say, 'you need a nappy change' and then pause so they can take this in."
Parents should then offer choices, asking whether the child wants to walk or crawl to the change table or be carried. Observing facial expressions and body language becomes crucial for understanding the child's response.
Unlike common practice, the researchers discourage distracting children with toys or songs during nappy changes. They explain that "it's important children notice when someone is touching their most intimate parts."
Building Foundations for Safety
The approach extends beyond simple communication techniques. The researchers recommend involving children in the process by asking them to participate, such as requesting "can you please lift up your bottom so I can slide your nappy out."
This method "plants the seed of the idea that a child has the right to say what happens to their body" and establishes early patterns of bodily autonomy.
Using correct anatomical terms like penis, vulva and anus during nappy changes provides additional protection, according to the experts. While parents might feel uncomfortable with this practice, it enables children to communicate clearly about their experiences with all caregivers.
The same principles can apply during clothing changes and bath times, creating consistent messaging about consent and bodily boundaries throughout daily routines.
Realistic Expectations for Busy Parents
The researchers acknowledge that perfect implementation isn't always possible, especially during rushed moments or dealing with urgent situations like "poosplosions."
"Try and do them as often as possible and be kind to yourself if every nappy change isn't a perfect moment of connection," they reassure parents. Regular practice, rather than perfection, helps normalise conversations about consent.
This approach makes discussions about consent part of everyday life and helps children understand what is and isn't appropriate regarding their bodies. The researchers note that these early lessons contribute significantly to protecting children from potential abuse by establishing clear boundaries from infancy.
By transforming routine caregiving moments into opportunities for teaching consent, parents can build foundations for their children's understanding of bodily autonomy that will serve them throughout their lives.
