A licensed mortician and funeral director has shared what he believes is the most common regret people express on their deathbed. Victor M. Sweeney, who has spoken with many individuals nearing the end of their lives, says it 'all comes down to time'.
In an interview with LADbible Stories, Sweeney explained that he has met people who brought him their own obituaries, which sometimes read 'like a CV' listing jobs and positions. However, when speaking with families afterward, he found they often knew only 'the stuff' about their parents, lacking a deep, meaningful connection.
Sweeney said that those who felt they had lived a happy life typically said they 'spent their time well' and prioritised relationships. He advised: 'If you don't want to have that regret, spend your time with your loved ones while they're living.'
His observations echo those of a palliative care nurse who wrote a blog post in 2024 about common deathbed regrets. The nurse noted that many patients wished they had been brave enough to live life on their own terms, had worked too hard, missed out on family time, and lost touch with friends. She added that 'every single patient found their peace' before passing.
