When planning a hen party, one of the most debated questions is whether to invite the mother of the bride and mother-in-law. While there is no official rulebook, etiquette experts suggest that it is socially acceptable to exclude them, depending on the nature of the celebration and family dynamics.
Wedding culture has evolved, and hen parties now range from luxury spa weekends to wild themed parties. The decision to include older family members often comes down to personal preference and the type of event planned. For low-key gatherings like a dinner or spa day, inviting mothers can be appropriate, but for wild nights out or adult-themed activities, a friends-only event may be better.
Etiquette expert Laura Windsor told HELLO! that it is acceptable not to invite mothers, but advises informing them in advance and organising a separate, more low-key gathering to keep everyone happy. Relationship therapist Nia Williams agrees, stating that hen parties should be friends-only events to avoid restrictions and ensure fun.
Experts also recommend considering the relationship between the mothers to prevent tension. If they do not get along, a friends-only guest list can keep the focus on the bride. Alternatively, hosting a separate family celebration, such as an afternoon tea or spa break, can make everyone feel included.
