Former Vogue editor Alexandra Shulman has penned a delightful and insightful guide on how to make American friends feel at home in the UK. With her trademark wit and sharp observations, Shulman offers a blend of practical advice and cultural nuance that’s both entertaining and useful.
The Art of Making Americans Feel Welcome
Shulman begins by acknowledging the subtle but significant differences between British and American social etiquette. "Americans appreciate warmth and openness, whereas Brits often default to polite reserve," she notes. To bridge this gap, she suggests small but meaningful gestures—like offering a proper cup of tea (with milk, not lemon) or explaining the quirks of British humour.
Key Tips for Hosting American Guests
- Be Direct with Invitations: Americans often take social plans at face value, so avoid vague phrases like "We must meet up soon."
- Explain British Peculiarities: From the unspoken rules of queueing to the mysteries of Sunday roasts, a little cultural translation goes a long way.
- Embrace Their Enthusiasm: Americans are generally more expressive, so don’t mistake their friendliness for insincerity.
Navigating Cultural Differences
Shulman highlights how Americans might find British sarcasm baffling or mistake self-deprecation for genuine insecurity. "A well-timed compliment can smooth over many misunderstandings," she advises. She also recommends embracing the American love for convenience—think well-stocked guest bathrooms and clear Wi-Fi passwords.
What Not to Do
- Don’t assume Americans understand British understatement.
- Avoid overly dry humour until they’ve acclimatised.
- Never skimp on the heating—Americans are used to warmer homes!
Ultimately, Shulman’s guide is a charming reminder that hospitality transcends borders. Whether you’re hosting an American friend for the first time or simply curious about cross-cultural friendships, her advice is both practical and heartwarming.
