A man who faced bullying due to his cerebral palsy has revealed how he sought help from a sex surrogate. James shared his story during an appearance on This Morning, speaking to ITV's presenters Cat Deeley and Ben Shephard about how the experience proved transformative for him.
James's Journey
Appearing on the sofa with his sex surrogate Saurora Grace, James described being bullied throughout school and beyond. He stated: 'I guess there's a weird thing where I sort of walk the line between disabled and able-bodied and people don't really know how to handle that.' He revealed it reached a point where he stopped leaving the house because people would spit at him and throw apples at him. James explained he attempted numerous different approaches but was 'not really in a good place' and 'felt very lost.'
Finding Help
When a friend recommended he consider a sex surrogate, he chose to pursue it. 'It becomes one of those things where you go, once you've gone through it, you go, I wish I'd done it sooner,' he remarked. 'Because it can be extremely life-changing. It changed a lot for me. You don't sort of realise the need for connection and things because it's not what people think it is. It's not like, there's a lot of preconceived notions about it and different things, and that's why I wanted to talk about it.'
What Is Sex Surrogacy?
Saurora then explained: 'Sex surrogacy is all about the intention behind it. So it's more holistic. There's a more therapeutic aspect to it. It's all about connection, intimacy, and literally seeing and hearing the person. Like, a lot of us all want to be seen and heard as human beings, and so that is ultimately what it is. Obviously, you do have, like, your standard sex work, which is just come in, have sex, and leave. But we do a lot more to do with literally what James has just said - connection, intimacy, seeing and hearing, and helping him to understand that because he's got a disability, it doesn't make him any different from anybody else. He's just the same, and he deserves to have a loving relationship and, you know, deserves to have sex and a juicy lifestyle.'
Impact on Others
When questioned about the impact of her work on others, she responded: 'I get a lot of messages afterwards, and people are like, I'm now not gonna go and kill myself. And that really hits.' James added: 'It honestly, in all ways that I could count, it's changed my life. It changed the trajectory of what I'm gonna do with my life. So it's just been extremely powerful. It's taken me in directions that I just thought were never doors that would open to someone like me. So Saurora's training me to be a surrogate now. So that's the career change for me. I've got this lived-in experience that nobody else has got, and I can sort of I've been to those dark places, and I really, really want to help people out.'
This Morning airs from 10am on ITV on weekdays.
