A TikTok dating 'expert' has ignited a lively debate after declaring that men should always pay for a first date. Nelly, who runs the account @ask.nelly, shared her views in a video that has amassed more than 85,000 views, arguing that splitting the bill signals a lack of chivalry and suggests a man is 'dating outside his price range.'
In the video, Nelly stated: 'Men should never let a woman pay for a first date because if you're asking a girl out and then going Dutch, it just shows you're cheap, you weren't raised right, you're not chivalrous and you're dating outside of your price range.' She clarified that if a man cannot afford a fancy meal, a picnic in the park is acceptable, as long as he ultimately foots the bill.
Nelly further claimed that even women who insist on splitting costs are secretly judging their dates. 'Even the most progressive girls who insist they split it with you and say they don't mind... do mind,' she said. 'Not because they can't afford it, but because it shows us your character.' She warned women who pay on first dates that their date 'ain't it.'
The video has received over 1,300 comments, with opinions sharply divided. One woman commented: 'I would rather pay for myself. Then there are no 'expectations'.' Another disagreed, saying: 'I don't mind paying, but if I pay on the first date there won't be a second. We can be friends.'
The remarks have reignited discussions around modern dating etiquette, with many questioning whether traditional gender roles still apply. As Nelly's video continues to circulate, it seems the debate over who should pay for a first date is far from settled.
