As the festive season reaches its peak, households across the UK are preparing for increased family time, bringing both joy and potential tension. For those in new relationships, this period can introduce additional nerves alongside the seasonal magic.
While Christmas is traditionally a time for merriment, it also triggers anxiety about awkward conversations at family gatherings. Startling data from Bridebook reveals that 28,000 Google searches for "How to get out of Christmas" occurred in the UK during the past month alone.
This search term experiences a significant annual surge as December approaches, with 65,000 UK searches recorded last December - the highest volume since 2021.
Master Your RSVP Strategy
With multiple family events often scheduled throughout the holiday period, many couples struggle to manage their attendance without causing offence.
Globally-renowned etiquette expert Jo Hayes advises that "communicating your capacity in a kind, calm, clear way is key." She suggests including specific departure times when accepting invitations, such as stating "We'd love to come; however, we'll only be able to stay until 4 pm."
This approach establishes clear expectations and prevents awkwardness when leaving. For events you cannot attend, Hayes recommends a warm but firm decline, avoiding over-explanation while maintaining politeness.
Prioritise Personal Breathing Space
Managing the festive season's demands requires intentional self-care moments amidst the social whirlwind.
"In order to manage the busier seasons of life well, while maintaining an inner sense of peace, this season you must carve out time to physically 'inhale oxygen', so that we can exhale," Hayes recommends.
She emphasises that although this requires discipline and sometimes saying no, the rewards include greater mental and emotional wellness, plus enhanced clarity during a typically chaotic period.
Communicate Openly With Your Partner
Transparent conversations with your significant other about festive expectations can prevent misunderstandings and resentment.
"Speak with your partner, whether existing or new, about what you'd like your festive period to look like," Hayes suggests. "You need to be transparent with your partner if you'd prefer cosy couple time or some alone time during this manic period."
Hamish Shephard, Founder of Bridebook, adds: "The reality of every relationship is that you're not going to agree on everything 100% of the time, and these disagreements can often come up during the Christmas period."
He stresses that understanding each other's perspectives enables couples to navigate the season with mutual respect, creating a happier Christmas while honouring individual needs.
