Researchers from Deakin University in Australia have suggested that parents should use nappy changes as an opportunity to teach babies about consent. Dr Nicole Downs and Dr Katherine Bussey argue that consent should be a 'normal, everyday part of life' from infancy, rather than waiting until the teenage years.
In an article for The Conversation, the scientists advise parents to communicate with their babies before changing their nappies. They recommend getting down to the child's level, explaining what is happening, and offering choices such as whether to walk or be carried to the changing table. Parents should also observe facial expressions and body language to ensure understanding.
The experts discourage distracting children during nappy changes, as it is important for them to notice when their intimate parts are being touched. Using correct anatomical terms like penis, vulva, and anus is also recommended to help children communicate with trusted adults about their experiences.
However, the researchers acknowledge that asking for consent may not always be appropriate, such as during urgent 'poosplosions'. They encourage parents to be kind to themselves and apply these principles as often as possible without striving for perfection.
This is not the first time such advice has been proposed. In 2018, Body Safety Australia chief Deanne Carson faced widespread ridicule for suggesting babies should give consent for nappy changes. Child psychologist Andrew Fuller criticised the advice as 'impractical' for daily parenting.
