Former EastEnders star John Jardine has shared an emotional account of his journey caring for his 86-year-old father, John Sr., who lives with dementia. The actor, best known for playing villainous roles on screen, reveals how his dramatic training has unexpectedly prepared him for the challenges of caregiving.
The Heartbreaking Diagnosis
Jardine's world changed when his father, a once-vibrant man who served in the Royal Navy, was diagnosed with dementia. "He doesn't always recognise me as his son," Jardine confesses, his voice filled with emotion. "In his confused state, he sometimes sees me as one of the villainous characters I played on television."
Finding Strength in Unexpected Places
The actor explains how his experience playing tough characters on EastEnders has become an unlikely source of strength. "When he's agitated or confused, I channel that same authoritative energy I used on screen. It helps calm him when nothing else works."
Jardine describes the complex emotions of this role reversal: "There are days when it's utterly heartbreaking. But I've learned to use every tool at my disposal, even if it means temporarily becoming the 'soap villain' he sometimes sees me as."
The Reality of 24/7 Care
The former actor has put his career on hold to become a full-time carer, navigating the challenging landscape of dementia care. He shares the raw reality of their daily life:
- Managing medication and doctor's appointments
- Dealing with sleep disturbances and confusion
- Maintaining patience during repetitive conversations
- Balancing care with personal wellbeing
A Message of Support for Other Carers
Jardine hopes his story will help others in similar situations feel less alone. "There's no rulebook for this," he says. "You have to find what works for your loved one, even if it means drawing on unexpected resources."
He emphasises the importance of support systems and acknowledges the crucial role of organisations like the NHS and dementia charities. "Without proper support, carers can quickly become overwhelmed. We need to talk more openly about these challenges."
Despite the difficulties, Jardine finds moments of profound connection with his father. "When he has a clear moment and recognises me, when he smiles or shares a memory - those are the moments that keep me going."
