A food psychologist has outlined three key rules for parents to help raise resilient children, drawing parallels with strategies for getting kids to eat vegetables. The expert argues that modern parenting has become too conflict-avoidant, contributing to issues such as school absenteeism, excessive screen time, and poor mental health among young people.
The first rule is to be a good role model. Parents who are glued to their phones or complain about work are likely to see their children mimic these behaviours. Instead, parents should demonstrate positive habits, such as putting away devices, enjoying their job, and being active in the world.
The second rule is to control the environment. Parents should set clear boundaries early on, such as no phones at the table, no computers in bedrooms, and limited screen time. This provides a structured space for children to study or apply for jobs.
The third rule is to say the right things. Negative comments about school or work can shape a child's mindset, making them disengaged. Parents should emphasise the social and personal benefits of education and employment, while avoiding overplaying narratives about how much harder things are now due to factors like Covid or mental health.
The psychologist notes that while external factors such as the pandemic and social media play a role, parents have inadvertently contributed by being too gentle and conflict-avoidant. By following these three rules, parents can foster resilience without needing head-to-head confrontations.
