In a revealing insight into modern family dynamics, a prominent psychologist has issued a stark warning against mothers attempting to become their daughters' "best friends" - claiming this well-intentioned approach could cause significant psychological harm.
Dr. Emma Kenny, a respected relationship expert, explains that while the intention behind becoming your child's confidante might seem positive, it ultimately deprives children of crucial emotional boundaries and parental guidance they desperately need.
The Hidden Dangers of blurred Boundaries
"When mothers transition into the role of a best friend," Dr. Kenny states, "they inadvertently abandon their primary responsibility as a parent. Children require clear boundaries and authoritative guidance to develop healthy emotional regulation and interpersonal skills."
The psychologist emphasizes that this trend particularly affects daughters, who need their mothers to model healthy adult behaviour rather than participate in peer-like relationships.
Why Children Need Parents, Not Pals
Dr. Kenny identifies several critical areas where the "best friend" approach fails children:
- Lack of discipline: Friends don't set rules or enforce consequences, leaving children without necessary structure
- Emotional burden: Children become unwilling therapists for their parents' problems
- Stunted development: Missing crucial lessons about respect for authority and healthy boundaries
- Future relationship issues: Daughters may struggle to form healthy peer relationships in adulthood
The Right Balance: Nurturing Without Overstepping
Rather than striving for friendship, Dr. Kenny advocates for a balanced approach where mothers remain authoritative figures who are approachable, supportive, and emotionally available without crossing into peer territory.
"Your daughter doesn't need another friend," she concludes. "She needs a mother who provides stability, wisdom, and unconditional love while maintaining appropriate boundaries that foster healthy development."
The expert's advice comes as increasing numbers of parents report confusion about their role in their children's lives, particularly during the challenging teenage years when peer influence peaks.
