A parenting influencer has highlighted a common error that prevents children from playing independently. Nora, who runs the account @mamaandtheworld, told her 6,000 followers that simply providing a pile of toys is not enough.
She explained that independent play is not a personality trait but a skill that must be taught. The mother-of-two advised parents to start playing with their child, be fully present for five to ten minutes, and then gradually withdraw with a purpose, such as saying they need the bathroom.
Nora stressed the importance of returning and observing from a distance. If the child is engaged, parents should avoid interrupting. She referenced attachment theory by British psychologist John Bowlby, noting that children play more independently when a caregiver acts as a secure base first.
She added that adult guidance is beneficial before and during early stages of play, and that stepping back supports self-regulation, attention, and executive function. Factors such as mood, hunger, tiredness, and illness can also affect a child's ability to play alone.
Followers praised the advice, with one saying: 'Love this, I've been following these steps and it actually works!' Another commented: 'How interesting and helpful to be present and calmly help them become independent.'
