As the festive season approaches, many of us are preparing to attend gatherings rather than host them. For those wondering how to be the perfect guest, expert advice is at hand. Chelsea Fagan, author of Having People Over, has shared her essential rules for guests, offering wisdom that prioritises thoughtfulness over extravagance.
The Cardinal Rules for Considerate Guests
Fagan's first rule is a simple yet crucial one: never arrive early. "Never, ever, ever show up early to someone’s home. It’s stressful for the host," she advises. The perfect arrival time, according to her book, is approximately ten minutes after the party's stated start. If you find yourself running early, a thoughtful gesture is to text your host and ask if you can pick up any last-minute items on your way.
When it comes to gifts, the key is to be helpful, not burdensome. Fagan recommends considering the effort that goes into holiday hosting. "When I’m a guest at a holiday party, which usually takes a lot of effort, I typically like to show up with two things: one for the party itself and one for the next day," she explains. A bottle of wine for the evening and pastries for the host's breakfast the following morning is a considerate combination. If bringing flowers, place them in a vase beforehand to save your host the task.
Communication is Key
Avoid springing surprises on your host. Communicating dietary restrictions, a plus-one, or a late arrival in advance is a fundamental part of being a good guest. "Keep in mind that 99% of it [being a good guest] is communication," Fagan states. What may seem like a small detail to you can disrupt carefully laid plans.
Finally, expressing gratitude costs nothing but means everything. "It’s saying please and thank you," Fagan says, dispelling the myth that being a great guest requires lavish gestures. To go the extra mile, she recommends sending a handwritten thank-you note after the event, a personal touch that hosts cherish.
Sustainable Gift Ideas for Pets and People
Beyond guest etiquette, finding the right presents is a seasonal challenge. For pet owners, eco-friendly options are gaining popularity. Our experts have tested sustainable toys, from a classic dog-bone chew toy to hide-and-seek tunnels made from paper and cardboard, perfect for reducing plastic waste.
For mothers, practical tech gifts can delight long after the holidays. A recent survey of mums revealed desires for items like a budget-friendly mug warmer and a sleek wellness tracker that doubles as jewellery, moving beyond generic presents.
Supporting independent retailers can also yield unique finds. Consider eclectic items from small businesses, such as beautifully designed tea towels or an olive oil and za’atar gift set, which stand out from mass-produced high-street offerings.
For the outdoor enthusiast on your list, field-tested gear is always welcome. Recommendations from an outdoor journalist include durable socks for hiking and a reliable cast-iron skillet for campfire cooking, ensuring gifts are both thoughtful and functional.
