With the holiday season in full swing, many of us are preparing to attend parties and gatherings. But being a great guest is about more than just showing up. According to Chelsea Fagan, author of Having People Over, the key to being a perfect guest lies in simple, thoughtful actions that cost little to nothing.
Fagan’s first rule: never arrive early. “It’s stressful for the host,” she says. Instead, aim to arrive about 10 minutes after the party’s start time. If you find yourself early, offer to pick up a last-minute item on your way.
When it comes to host gifts, avoid creating extra work. For example, if bringing flowers, place them in a vase beforehand. Fagan also suggests bringing two items: one for the party, like a bottle of wine, and one for the next day, such as pastries. This acknowledges the effort hosting requires.
Communication is crucial. Inform your host in advance about dietary restrictions, extra guests, or late arrivals. “99% of being a good guest is communication,” Fagan notes. Basic manners, like saying please and thank you, go a long way. For an extra touch, send a handwritten thank-you note after the event.
