Every day, the Daily Star's agony aunt Jane O'Gorman offers straight-talking advice on issues from bedroom confessions to self-confidence and drug use. Readers can write to Just Jane, Daily Star, One Canada Square, London, E145AP or email jane.ogorman@reachplc.com. Jane cannot respond to individual letters and not all problems will be published.
Risky business
A married man confesses to a two-year sizzling affair with a colleague, involving quickies in disabled toilets, car parks, and empty offices. His firm is offering voluntary redundancy, which his wife wants him to take, but that would end the affair. His lover is hysterical and insists he stay, while his wife pressures him to take the cash and work with her brother in gardening.
Jane says the affair is wrong and must end. She advises him to talk honestly to his wife, decide for himself about the redundancy, and consider whether to confess. She questions his commitment and respect for his wife, urging a long think about his future.
Bunch of users
A couple feels overwhelmed by takers: parents, adult children, friends, and a sister who dominates phone calls with complaints. Jane advises setting limits and getting tough, noting that everyone would cope if something happened to them.
Location location location
A woman's partner sold their car and gave away guinea pigs without telling her, and now announces a house move. Jane tells her to demand a proper explanation, assert her rights in the relationship, and consider if it's healthy, possibly suggesting they go separate ways.
Pleasure denied
A woman complains her boyfriend ignores her sexual needs, denying oral sex despite her pleas. Jane suggests explaining the importance of mutual pleasure and showing him the door if he doesn't change.
