A secret Facebook group with over 17,000 members is being used by women to share warnings about sexual abusers and predators on dating apps. The group, 'Are we dating the same guy? London', allows women to anonymously post 'red flags' about former partners or request information about their matches.
Metro.co.uk reviewed hundreds of posts dating back to May 2022, finding that warnings about sexual assault and coercion are alarmingly common. One woman described a man who threatened to 'rape' her for not answering his texts, while another recounted an assault during a date, requiring her to flee.
Posts often include screenshots of dating profiles, with comments alerting others to dangerous behaviour. One warning mentioned a police officer who allegedly sleeps with women without protection despite having multiple STIs. Another described a man who became violent, resulting in a broken hand.
The group, which originated in New York, has strict rules to protect legitimacy. It is private, with an intensive prescreening process and a team of 11 admins and moderators monitoring posts. Sharing personal information such as surnames or addresses is forbidden.
Members have expressed relief at avoiding dangerous individuals, with many vowing not to date men who received negative reviews. The group operates alongside the Domestic Violence Disclosure Scheme, known as Clare's Law, which allows individuals to check if a partner has a history of domestic violence.
