There was a time when the idea of being labelled a 'difficult woman' filled me with dread. Society has long conditioned women to be agreeable, accommodating, and never to rock the boat. But over time, I've come to realise that being called 'difficult' isn't an insult – it's a testament to my refusal to conform to outdated expectations.
The Weight of the Label
For years, I bent over backwards to avoid being seen as demanding or confrontational. I swallowed my opinions, softened my tone, and prioritised others' comfort over my own needs. Like so many women, I feared the repercussions of speaking my mind too boldly.
A Shift in Perspective
Then something changed. I began noticing how often strong, assertive women were dismissed as 'difficult' while men exhibiting the same behaviours were praised as 'decisive' or 'passionate'. This double standard became impossible to ignore.
Embracing the Title
Now, when someone calls me difficult, I take it as a compliment. It means I'm standing my ground, setting boundaries, and refusing to be silenced. The women I most admire – those fighting for change, challenging the status quo – are invariably labelled difficult too.
Why It Matters
This isn't about being contrary for its own sake. It's about recognising that progress often requires making people uncomfortable. From the suffragettes to #MeToo activists, history's most impactful women were all considered 'difficult' in their time.
So here's to the difficult women – may we know them, may we be them, may we raise them. The world needs our voices now more than ever.
