A flatmate and his girlfriend have asked their roommate to join them in a threesome, promising dinner and wine at a good restaurant, £100 for personal care such as intimate waxing and new underwear, and a £50 gift card as thanks. The question is whether to accept the offer when there is no attraction to either of them.
Advice: Decline If Your Heart's Not In It
Agony aunt Jane O'Gorman advises saying 'Thanks, but no thanks' and suggesting they find someone else. She notes that you cannot fake attraction, and no free meal or courtesy wax will change that. She also warns that accepting the 'package' could blur the line between personal expenses and personal services.
Stand Firm and Walk Away If Needed
Jane advises being prepared to get tough and walking away if they become unpleasant or heavy, because you owe them nothing. The key is to maintain your boundaries and not feel pressured by the offer.
