Jan Leeming's Parenting Advice Stirs Controversy Over Public Behaviour
Former 1980s newsreader Jan Leeming has unexpectedly found herself at the centre of a heated parenting debate this week, after voicing strong opinions on children's behaviour in public spaces. Without any involvement in reality TV shows like Strictly Come Dancing, Leeming has inadvertently taken on a role reminiscent of Supernanny, offering blunt advice to parents on child-rearing practices.
The Incident That Sparked the Debate
Last week, Leeming took to social media to express her frustration after a friend's birthday lunch at The Pig at Bridge Place, near Canterbury, was disrupted by a screaming child. She described the scene, noting that one toddler was a 'real menace,' allowed to wander and scream while the parents appeared oblivious to other diners. Over the weekend, she elaborated on Times Radio, criticising parents who treat their children 'like little princes and princesses,' allowing them to 'run riot.' Leeming controversially suggested that children should be trained, akin to dogs, to behave appropriately in public, emphasising that it is a parent's responsibility to teach social acceptability.
Why Leeming's Views Resonate
While Leeming's canine comparison has drawn criticism and evoked unsettling imagery, many argue she has a valid point. A primary duty of parenting is to guide children away from selfish or disruptive behaviour, ensuring they develop into considerate adults. Success in this area helps children navigate social interactions, build relationships, and function effectively in society. It involves teaching them that they are not the centre of the universe and that their actions impact others, especially in settings like restaurants, trains, or cinemas.
For neurodivergent children, sitting quietly may not be feasible, and this discussion does not apply to them. However, for most, learning to behave appropriately is essential. This isn't about enforcing outdated 'seen and not heard' rules but about expecting basic courtesy, such as remaining seated and avoiding screaming in adult-oriented establishments. Family-friendly venues exist for more chaotic environments, but in others, parents must ensure their children adhere to social norms or remove them if necessary.
The Parental Perspective
Often overlooked is the fact that when a child causes a scene in public, no one wishes for silence more fervently than the parents themselves. They are acutely aware of the disapproval from others, a reality their child might ignore. This insight is best delivered with love and patience, making it a parental duty to guide children gently. Failure to do so can lead to adults who exhibit thoughtless behaviours, such as playing music loudly without headphones or being inconsiderate in public spaces, stemming from a lack of early training.
Lessons from Social Experiments
A Guardian article by Hannah Ewens highlighted a social experiment where she politely asked people to use headphones when playing content aloud in public. Most responded positively, often appearing shocked or apologetic, realising they had been inconsiderate without intent. This underscores that many aren't 'bad dogs' but simply untrained in social etiquette. Similarly, children need to learn that the world is shared with billions of others, requiring kindness and consideration.
In conclusion, while Jan Leeming's delivery may be blunt, her core message holds weight: parents play a crucial role in shaping socially acceptable behaviour. By teaching children to respect shared spaces, we foster a more civilised society for everyone.
