Daily Star's agony aunt Jane O'Gorman offers straight-talking advice to readers facing difficult dilemmas.
Harassed by sex-mad boss
A man writes that his sex-mad boss can't understand why he won't get naked with her. He's explained he's devoted to his long-term girlfriend, but she says, "She doesn't have to know." She dangles promotions, bonuses, and pay rises to win him over. During a teambuilding weekend, she spent over an hour trying to get into his hotel room. He stood behind the door begging her to leave. She claimed she was naked under her silky dressing gown and wanted 'a chat.' When he refused, she kicked the door and called him a tease. A staff member forced her to leave.
Later, he heard she had sex with another colleague all night while talking about him, saying she loved him. The colleague recorded her, and the man heard her gushing about her adoration. His girlfriend would be furious. The colleague is leaving and suggests playing the recording to the boss's husband, but the man is unsure.
Jane's advice
Jane advises the man to write down everything that happened and go to his union representative or HR department. He should make clear he finds the game tiresome and insulting, and insist steps are taken to stop the pestering. He should not approach the husband but keep the recording for future reference. If HR doesn't take him seriously, he may need an employment lawyer. He should keep his partner informed.
Stingy sister-in-law
Another reader complains her sister-in-law is mean and loaded but splits bills exactly in half. Even though she drives her into town weekly, the sister-in-law never treats her to coffee or offers petrol money. The reader feels bitter and jealous.
Jane says it's shabby not to offer petrol money. She advises not to fall out completely due to family connection but to be busy in the future. Ultimately, the sister-in-law isn't obliged to pay, but appreciation would be nice.
