The Daily Star's agony aunt Jane O'Gorman offers straight-talking advice to readers facing personal dilemmas. In one letter, a man due to marry his fiancée in September is reeling after she confessed to a two-year affair with her boss, which ended in 2022. The reader describes the boss as 'oily and flash,' and recalls him bragging about sexual encounters with staff. He questions how his fiancée could be with such a man and what it says about her.
Doubting Trust and Commitment
Jane advises the reader to question his fiancée's loyalty and commitment. She asks why the affair happened and whether he can trust her again. Jane warns against feeling pressured into the marriage and suggests taking time to think, noting that the reader may be questioning if he truly knows his fiancée.
Another letter comes from a couple whose 32-year-old son, about to remarry, has threatened to cut ties because they cannot provide financial support for a deposit or car. He claims they are an embarrassment and has told new friends he is an orphan. The couple live on a limited income and could not match the £6,000 his grandmother gave for his first wedding.
Standing Up to Entitlement
Jane calls the son a 'revolting brat' with a sense of entitlement, advising the parents to stand up for themselves and insist on a family meeting. She reminds them that they provided love and care, and that he was never abused. If he measures life by money, he will end up bitter and shallow, she concludes.
