Richard Fidler, the longtime host of ABC Radio's Conversations, has spoken publicly for the first time about his three-month absence from the show last year. The 60-year-old author and former punk comic revealed that his wife Khym was diagnosed with a nasopharyngeal tumour, a type of cancer prevalent in Southeast Asia. She underwent 13 weeks of chemotherapy and seven weeks of daily radiation, finishing on New Year's Eve. In March, her oncologist declared her cancer-free, using the word 'pristine' to describe her scan.
Fidler, who shares the hosting chair with Sarah Kanowski, took carer's leave during Khym's treatment. He described the therapy as 'extremely punishing but extremely effective', noting that radiation left her neck inflamed and temporarily destroyed her taste buds. The couple, married for 32 years, have been together for 34. Fidler said he wanted to talk about the experience now that Khym is recovering well.
Walking through Sydney's Potts Point, where he has lived for years, Fidler reflected on the power of walking for conversation. He noted that the area has changed significantly since he first moved there with Khym, when it was rougher and frequented by bikers and drug dealers. Now, it's a serene neighbourhood of antique stores and bookshops.
Fidler, known for his authentic curiosity on the show, said he rarely talks to anyone for an uninterrupted hour in his private life, including his wife. 'It's eye contact, curiosity and knowing when to keep your mouth shut,' he said. He expressed disdain for podcasts that are 'just a couple of people shooting the shit', emphasising the importance of respect for the audience.
Despite his fame, Fidler goes unrecognised on the street, though people may recognise his voice. His show, which began 20 years ago, has tens of millions of downloads annually. He attributes its success to careful research, active listening, and wry humour.
