Daily Star agony aunt Jane O'Gorman is on hand every day to help readers with their problems, offering straight-talking advice on everything from bedroom confessions to self-confidence issues and drug use. She has helped thousands of readers over the years and continues to answer their concerns.
Readers can write to Just Jane, Daily Star, One Canada Square, London, E145AP or email jane.ogorman@reachplc.com. Jane cannot respond to individual letters, and not all problems will be published.
Boyfriend's Sex Doll Obsession
A reader, identified as Dolly, fears her boyfriend has fallen in love with his sex doll. She says he is more interested in his silicone brunette than in her, and she feels insulted and freaked out. After returning from working abroad, she discovered he had bought a life-size busty doll that has become his plaything and soul mate.
The doll is always present when she visits, and he talks to it and buys it lacy underwear. He has suggested the doll join them in bed, which she has banned. She asks how she can compete when the doll is better looking than she is.
Jane says the doll may have been a good stop gap while the reader was away, but now she is back, normal service needs to resume. She asks whether the boyfriend is emotionally as well as sexually attached and suggests discussing the issue. Jane notes that what he does in private is his business, but she is concerned the doll is a barrier to a real relationship. She urges the reader to talk about it.
Ex Holding Belongings to Ransom
Another reader says his ex-lover is holding his belongings to ransom. She refuses to release his clothes and gym equipment, and won't allow his brother to collect them. She insists he must come round personally to get them, calling it 'only polite and respectful'. He believes she is trying to trap him with booze, guilt and the promise of sex.
Jane advises him to stand strong and keep his cool, warning her that he is done with playing games. She suggests insisting she be adult about the situation, asking whether she wants a lawyer or the police involved. Jane recommends giving her a time and date for collection and making it clear that no one benefits from drama or spite.
Neighbour Who Won't Give Space
A third reader complains that her neighbour constantly joins her in activities, clubs and holidays, even though they have nothing in common. The reader wants to encourage the neighbour to live her own life.
Jane says the neighbour is not the reader's responsibility. She advises speaking up and telling the neighbour she is happy to be friends but cannot rely on the reader to organise her social life. Jane adds that the reader should make it clear she likes to be spontaneous and free, and should not feel guilty about being her own person.
