After 14 years in the adult industry, Alix Lynx has revealed that working in the sector has made her more confident, open-minded and comfortable in her own skin, and that she now enjoys her private sex life more because of it.
Alix admitted that there was a period earlier in her career when filming five or six days a week for mainstream porn started to impact her desire away from work. However, moving into content creation has completely changed things.
Filming schedule took a toll
“When I was living in LA and working all the time, I would literally film five or six days a week,” Alix said. “I was constantly on studio sets, and during that time I did get sick of it.”
“That was earlier on in my career when I was still so fresh. I didn’t really know my boundaries or how to navigate the industry, so I just kept pushing myself. Eventually, it did start to trickle into my personal life. When we’re on set, we’re performing.”
“A scene can be 45 minutes to an hour of straight sex, so on my days off, of course I was like, ‘Okay, I need a break.’ That’s not to say I didn’t like sex. I just didn’t feel like I needed it as much because I was literally getting it all the time from work.”
Content creation changed everything
Alix said things changed when she joined a popular adult content platform and gained more control over what she filmed, who she worked with and how often she worked.
“Now my content is so curated because I only work with people I actually really like, want to work with and have good chemistry with,” she said. “Because I’m having more fun at work and I have more agency over what I do, I actually enjoy sex in my personal life more too.”
“Doing this job has made me more open-minded and willing to try new things. It’s made me more spontaneous, confident and comfortable in my own skin.”
Insecurities faded over time
In reality, Alix thinks spending so many years in the industry has helped remove many of the insecurities women can experience in the bedroom. “I have friends who aren’t in the industry, and I’ve had so many conversations with women over the years who have these little hang-ups,” she said.
“They’ll say, ‘What if I smell? What if he doesn’t like how I taste?’ Or, ‘I feel fat today. I feel bloated.’ I don’t typically have those thoughts anymore. They just don’t really exist for me, or at least not very often.”
“Being in the adult industry for so long has probably made me even more of a sexual person. I just enjoy sex more. I’m more confident and I’m more comfortable with it.”
Misconceptions about performers
Despite that, Alix said one of the biggest misconceptions she has encountered is that being an adult performer means she automatically wants to sleep with everyone she meets. During her years living in LA, she found the assumption particularly frustrating when she was trying to date.
“Guys would sometimes immediately try to hook up with me because they assumed that was what I wanted,” she said. “If I said, ‘No, let’s just hang out,’ they’d be like, ‘Oh, is it because of your job?’ I’d be like, ‘No, I’m just trying to date like a normal person and actually get to know someone.’”
“If I was genuinely interested in dating someone and they were pushing for sex straight away, it would actually turn me off.”
Work and private intimacy differ
Alix said having sex professionally also means the experience of being intimate privately feels completely different. While viewers might see a spontaneous sexual encounter on camera, behind the scenes Alix is constantly thinking about what needs to happen next.
“When I’m working, I am constantly thinking about a bunch of different things in my head,” she said. “I’m thinking, ‘Okay, next position. How’s my angle?’ I’m thinking about what the viewer is seeing and how they’re experiencing it because I want to make sure my fans get a great end product. There’s so much multitasking going on in my head.”
“In my personal sex life, that part of my brain is just off. I can be completely present, and I value and cherish those moments more because I’m not ‘on.’”
Sex and intimacy are different
After experiencing both sides for more than a decade, Alix said she has also come to realise that sex and intimacy are two very different things. She believes having so much physical intimacy through her career has made her place far more value on an emotional connection in her personal life.
“When I was working a lot, I felt like I was already getting all of that physical stuff through work. So when I was dating, I found myself craving more of an emotional connection with people,” she said. “I didn’t put sex on a pedestal. It was almost the last thing I was thinking about because I was craving that emotional connection. I was getting all the physical stuff at work, so I wanted more of a human connection.”
According to Alix, that difference has only become clearer the longer she has worked in the industry. “I’m so grateful for my time in the industry. I’ve had so many sexual experiences with all kinds of people. I mean, people that others at home fantasise about, I’ve had sex with most of them,” she said.
“There’s a huge difference between having physical fun and experiencing physical pleasure, and true intimacy. True intimacy is actually connecting with someone’s brain. It’s feeling seen and being more vulnerable with somebody. That’s a beautiful thing. Before I got into porn, if the sex was really good, I could get blinded by that. Now I’m like, ‘Okay, the sex was good, but he sucks.’ I don’t get blinded by that anymore.”
Performers are 'normal people'
Ultimately, Alix wishes people would stop assuming that what adult performers do on camera dictates what they want when they're away from work. “Oh my God, I’m so sick of people looking at someone and going, ‘Oh, they’re an adult performer, they’re definitely going to be down to f*** me,’” she said.
“Just because someone does that on camera so viewers at home can watch, it does not automatically mean they want to have sex with everybody and anybody. If anything, being in the industry has made me even pickier in my personal life. I get to work with the best people in the business, so why the f--- would I want to hook up with some random person? You’ve got to bring something good to the table.”
“Adult performers are just humans. We’re normal people with unconventional careers.”
