A man has told agony aunt Jane O'Gorman that he is furious after his partner admitted she never plans to have sex with him again, leaving him feeling his time has been wasted.
The man explained that in 2024 he took her on a romantic break, where they had a quickie on the Saturday morning before she claimed to have a headache for the rest of the weekend. They have not been intimate since, with her turning him down using every excuse from feeling sick to 'not being in the mood'.
During a recent row, she confessed that she does not enjoy physical contact, insisting it is not him but her. She also told him he is not allowed to take a lover because that would 'hurt her feelings'.
Jane's Advice: Open Up the Conversation
Jane suggested there could be several reasons for her lack of interest in sex, including confusion about her own sexuality, a loss of sexual confidence, or physical or mental illness. She advised the man to speak to her again to find out why she is rejecting him.
Jane asked whether she is willing to see a medical professional or relationship counsellor regarding the situation. She warned that if he craves comfort and a satisfying sex life and she is not willing to meet him halfway or open up, then he may have to think about moving on.
Other Reader Dilemmas
In a separate letter, a mature woman complained that her family want her dead because they covet her money. She said her daughter sounded disappointed when she announced she was feeling better after a serious illness over the summer. Jane advised her to consider sharing her money now and speaking to a financial adviser, while also asking her family for more kindness and respect.
Another reader wrote about his partner's dramatic weight loss from using weight loss jabs, saying she is now too thin and that he hates the way she looks. Jane urged him to be kinder and to support her, while asking her to take care if she is beginning to look ill.
