For over two decades, manifesting expert Carolyn Boyes has been guiding individuals toward achieving their deepest desires through the power of focused intention and the law of attraction. Having personally experimented with these techniques, she discovered that when you truly determine what you want, everything seems to fall into place, attracting what appears to be remarkable good luck.
In her forthcoming book, Manifest The Life You Love, Boyes outlines a comprehensive seven-step process. Yesterday, she revealed the first three steps: using imagination to identify desired life changes, creating detailed visualisations, and flooding your subconscious with the feeling of living your new life. Today, she shares the crucial final four steps that bridge the gap between dreaming and reality.
Navigating Relationships and Overcoming Obstacles
Step four addresses the social dynamics of personal transformation. As you progress on your manifesting journey, you'll naturally evolve into a more positive person, but not everyone will appreciate this change. Boyes emphasises that people in your life will either support your efforts or block your path.
She identifies the Pygmalion effect as a powerful force in manifesting success—when someone we respect has high expectations of us, we tend to perform better. This is why mentors can play such a significant role in your development.
However, friends who feel threatened by your transformation may exhibit jealousy or attempt to keep you in familiar patterns. Boyes offers a rather brutal solution: If people don't approve of your path, it's time to leave them behind and find your new tribe.
As you become more aligned with your authentic self, you'll naturally attract people with similar positive mindsets through what Boyes describes as good vibrations. This magnetic attraction to like-minded individuals is a sign from the universe that you're on the right track.
Mastering Your Mindset and Emotions
Step five focuses on handling the inevitable obstacles and negative thoughts that arise during the manifesting process. Boyes explains that obstacles aren't meant to stop your plans but to help you discover inner resilience, character, and courage.
When negative factors interfere with positive wishes, the universe is testing your certainty about what you want. Your conscious mind might desire something, but if your subconscious harbors doubts, manifesting will struggle to succeed.
Boyes identifies several low-vibration emotions that can block manifestation:
- Fear: A primal emotion that protects but can prevent fully experiencing life
- Hate: Keeps you in a victim state, whether directed at others or yourself
- Anger: Wastes emotional energy on side issues rather than your main path
- Jealousy: Often masks beliefs that you don't deserve what others have
She recommends practical exercises to shift mindset, including deep breathing to calm the mind, labeling emotions aloud to interrupt negative states, and asking constructive questions to engage your thinking brain. Long-term practices like mindfulness and meditation help create better communication between your conscious, subconscious, and higher selves.
Taking Action and Receiving Your Reward
Step six involves consistent action toward your manifestation. You can't simply wait for rewards to arrive—the universe helps those who help themselves. Boyes suggests taking small, consistent steps like buying clothes that represent your new life, saving money, or joining groups aligned with your goals.
One of the least understood components is maintaining detachment while staying focused. Trying to control exactly how and when your wishes materialise can actually push them away. Boyes advises letting go of urgency and specific timelines to reduce unconscious resistance.
Just before major manifestations, many people face a final test from the universe that seems to block their path entirely. This requires deep introspection and resilience as your old self makes space for a stronger, renewed identity. Boyes recommends several practices to maintain momentum:
- Keep daily actions pointed toward your goals
- Develop regular routines like meditation or gratitude practice
- Regularly clear your home of items that no longer resonate with you
- Keep a future success diary detailing your manifested life
Step seven marks the arrival of your reward—the wonderful moment when your wish manifests in the external world exactly as you envisioned. Boyes encourages taking time to acknowledge this achievement, recognising that you've undergone a personal transformation to reach this point.
Your success proves you're capable of breaking free of self-imposed limitations and overcoming challenges. If the manifested wish hasn't made the material difference you hoped for, or if you feel you could have dreamed bigger, you can simply make a new, larger wish. One wish opens the door to another, creating an ongoing cycle of manifestation and achievement.
Adapted from Manifest The Life You Love by Carolyn Boyes (HQ £12.99), publishing December 4, 2025. © Carolyn Boyes 2025.
