Jane O'Gorman, the Daily Star's agony aunt, addresses two readers' dilemmas: workplace harassment and unrequited love. She offers direct advice on handling unwanted attention and moving on from rejection.
Workplace Harassment: 'Big Buzz'
A male reader reports being stalked and harassed by two female colleagues who make filthy comments, grab his bottom, and even buzzed a sex toy against his leg during a work outing. He feels intimidated and mortified, yet colleagues dismiss it as the women being 'sad and lonely.'
Jane O'Gorman states unequivocally: 'This behaviour isn’t funny or acceptable.' She advises the reader to report the harassment to his boss, union rep, or HR, emphasizing that he has witnesses and should insist on being taken seriously. 'Don’t, for one minute, think that any of this is your fault because these women are bang out of order,' she adds.
Unrequited Love: 'Leave Me Alone'
A female reader has asked her brother's friend out three times—for a concert, a pub lunch, and a drink—only to be rejected each time. The friend finally snapped, saying he was not interested in spending any time with her, ever. The reader believes they have much in common and suspects he is lonely.
Jane advises: 'You must let this go. Three times now this guy has explained that he’s not interested in you. Get over him before he starts accusing you of harassing him.' She suggests the reader pursue hobbies, interests, or volunteering to meet new people and find love away from her usual circle.
