Daily Star agony aunt Jane O'Gorman tackles two relationship dilemmas: a man struggling with a girlfriend obsessed with sex and a wife hurt by her husband's lingering feelings for an affair partner.
Pink Pony Club: How to Change a One-Trick Pony Girlfriend
A reader writes that his new girlfriend of seven months is only interested in sex, ignoring his opinions, friends, and family. He fears she is a sex addict and feels used despite being flattered. Friends and family warned him about her reputation, including a story of a threesome with identical twins lasting three days. He believes he can change her with love and security, as she is the best-looking girlfriend he has ever had.
Jane O'Gorman advises him that the relationship is one-sided and deeply unsatisfying. She urges him to sit her down and discuss the future, asking about her interests beyond sex. If she cannot provide answers, he may need to accept she is one-dimensional. She suggests encouraging her to consult a health professional if she has addictive tendencies, and advises him to work out what he wants from a relationship and life.
Patchy Service: Husband Misses Affair Partner
Another reader reveals her husband admitted missing a woman he had an affair with four years ago, just nine months into their marriage. They patched things up, but now his confession is causing renewed pain.
Jane O'Gorman says the husband must be honest about his true feelings. She questions whether he still sees a future with his wife and suggests relationship counselling or individual therapy. She notes the wife may feel her marriage is based on a lie and asks how she feels about that.
