In a moment of raw honesty that will resonate with countless step-parents, Kate Ferdinand has revealed she doesn't ask her stepchildren to call her 'Mum'. The former The Only Way Is Essex star made the surprising admission during a candid discussion on her Blended podcast.
Kate, who married former England football captain Rio Ferdinand in 2019, helps raise his three children from his previous marriage - Lorenz, 17, Tate, 15, and Tia, 12. The couple also share their own biological children, two-year-old son Cree and one-year-old daughter Shae.
The Emotional Balancing Act
The 32-year-old explained the delicate balancing act many blended families face, stating she wants to respect the memory of the children's late mother, Rebecca Ellison, who tragically passed away from breast cancer in 2015.
'I'm not their mum,' Kate revealed. 'I would never try and be their mum. I'm like a bonus parent, an extra person to love them, guide them, be there for them, but I'm very conscious that I'm not their mum.'
A Modern Family Dynamic
Kate's openness about the challenges and rewards of step-parenting has made her a relatable figure for many navigating similar family structures. She described how the children have developed their own unique way of referring to her that feels natural to them.
'The kids don't call me Mum, they call me Kate,' she shared, adding that this arrangement works perfectly for their family dynamic and helps maintain clear boundaries while still fostering a loving relationship.
Building Bonds Through Honesty
The reality star turned parenting podcaster has become known for her frank discussions about the realities of blended family life. Her approach prioritises honesty and open communication, creating a foundation of trust that has helped her build strong relationships with her stepchildren.
This latest revelation offers a refreshing perspective on modern parenting, showing that creating a successful blended family isn't about replacing a parent, but about building new, meaningful relationships that honour the past while embracing the future.
