A woman in her 30s, newly single after a nine-year relationship, has sought Coleen Nolan's advice after feeling overwhelmed by a new partner's enthusiasm. The reader, who has been on a few dates with a man she likes, says he calls when promised, texts frequently, and has already suggested a summer holiday together, despite only staying over once.
Coleen advises honesty, suggesting the woman tell her new partner she is not used to such attention and commitment, and that she wants to take things slowly. She notes that the reader's discomfort may stem from a previous relationship with a 'selfish and detached' partner, and that enjoying some lightness is understandable after a long-term split.
If the man reacts poorly to her request to slow down, Coleen says it may be a sign he is not right for her at this stage. The advice encourages the reader to trust her gut and not overthink, but to communicate openly to avoid moving too fast.
