A legal and communication expert has highlighted key signs that someone might be lying, including listening out for certain words they use. Speaking on the Diary of a CEO podcast with Steven Bartlett, board-certified Texas trial lawyer-turned communication coach Jefferson Fisher explained specific words and habits that immediately give liars away.
In the interview, he outlined practical methods for handling disputes and winning arguments. When discussing dishonesty, he pointed out a single type of word that he claims dishonest people frequently use.
Extreme Words as Warning Signs
According to Fisher, using extreme words like 'never' or 'always' is a major warning sign. To demonstrate, he had Bartlett ask him if he texts while driving. Fisher replied by saying he never texts behind the wheel.
He noted that using extreme terms usually signals a lie, since he says almost everyone has texted while driving at least once. Extreme statements are rarely completely true, making them easy to spot.
Instant Replies and Silence
Fisher also mentioned that liars tend to reply instantly. Rather than pausing to think or recall details, they jump straight into an answer without hesitation. He suggested repeating a liar's absolute claims back to them slowly. When asked to confirm an absolute statement like 'you never text,' most people will quickly backtrack and soften their response.
Once they realise their mistake, they usually try to adjust their story, he says. Fisher recommends offering them a safe way out of the lie so they do not feel trapped or overly defensive. In addition to watching for extreme language, staying quiet can be very effective. Remaining silent often forces the other person to keep talking, which can expose contradictions in their story.
Managing Difficult Conversations
Fisher explained that silence makes liars uncomfortable because they overthink the situation. To fill the quiet moment, they usually talk more and reveal their own deceit. Beyond identifying dishonesty, Fisher offered advice on managing difficult conversations. Careful word choices during tense moments can improve relationships and lead to better outcomes.
Finally, he advised against focusing purely on winning arguments, which often hurts personal connections. Instead, aim to understand the other side, control your breathing, and remain calm during disagreements.
