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Sexy Lingerie
My boyfriend is going to visit his extended family for a year. He's adamant that he doesn't want me to date anyone else while he's away because he's planning to come back and marry me. One thing he does want me to do, however, is contact him via my webcam and put on private sex shows. He's given me money to buy sexy lingerie, high heels and adult toys. He's saying that if I do this, then he won't be tempted to go out drinking with his cousins. In other words, if I give him something fruity each night, then he won't get sexually frustrated and cheat. I can't think of anything worse than stripping off and showing my boobs. I feel he's asking too much of me.
Jane Says:
Your boyfriend is planning to live abroad for a year but expects you to twiddle your thumbs. He's saying that if you entertain him with an online sex show of his directing then he won't cheat. Big deal. Why can't he promise not to cheat anyway? If you're not interested in putting on a sex show, then tell him 'no'. Explain that he's got the wrong girl. He can't dangle the promise of marriage and expect you to dance like a circus dog. It's time for that all-important serious chat. I'd hate you to waste a year of your life.
Life and Soul
Relations with my sister are at an all-time low. Recently at a birthday lunch with my friends, she was so outrageous and attention seeking that I didn't get a look in. Even when my cake was presented to me, she was the one who leaned across and blew out the candles. Later, at a party at my house, she got drunk and ended up kissing and groping a neighbour's husband. She's five years older than I am and has always cramped my style. I've just met a man who I simply don't trust her to be around. Must I cut her out of my life?
Jane Says:
If reasoning with your sister simply doesn't work; if she is an incorrigible exhibitionist who gets a thrill out of kicking up the dust and making mischief, then maybe you can only see her under controlled conditions. Presumably, you only invited her to your birthday celebration because you wanted to be nice. You don't have to ditch her, but you don't have to live in each other's pockets either. Arrange one-on-one coffee meet-ups in future. Keep your new chap away from her and stand your ground. I suspect that she's jealous of you and acts up to bring you down.
