Daily Star's agony aunt Jane O'Gorman is here to help with your problems, offering straight-talking advice on everything from relationship issues to self-confidence. If you need guidance, write to Just Jane, Daily Star, One Canada Square, London, E145AP or email jane.ogorman@reachplc.com. Note that Jane cannot respond to individual letters and not all problems will be published.
Toxic Friend's Wedding Request
A reader is still upset that her oldest friend slept with her boyfriend last year, during her birthday party. Now the friend has asked her to organise a three-course dinner, flowers, and table decorations for 60 guests at her June 2027 wedding, with a budget of just £3,000. The reader is not invited to be a bridesmaid because she is 'too old', adding to her insult.
Jane advises the reader to tell her toxic friend to forget it, as the friend is 'taking the pee' with such a low budget for everything. She suggests the reader should cut ties and claim her life back, as the friend is prone to pushing her luck and using people.
Hoarding Mother Needs Help
Another reader is concerned about her mother, who is a hoarder, and the state of her home. The mother refuses help, and the aunt living with her is forced to navigate the mess. The reader wants to help but faces resistance.
Jane advises working with family to get professional help, noting that hoarding disorder is a mental illness often triggered by a traumatic event. If the mother won't accept help, the reader should contact social services about the living conditions, as support is needed before things become dangerous.
