Daily Star's agony aunt Jane O'Gorman addresses readers' dilemmas, offering straight-talking advice on friendship conflicts and social media etiquette. Readers can write to Just Jane, Daily Star, One Canada Square, London, E145AP or email jane.ogorman@reachplc.com. Jane cannot respond to individual letters, and not all problems will be published.
Friends' Intervention Sparks Anger
A reader expresses fury after her three closest friends staged an intervention, accusing her of being 'shameless and disgusting.' They criticised her clothing as 'too tarty' and her number of lovers as 'too many,' threatening to exclude her from the friendship group unless she changes her behaviour.
The reader describes herself as a 'free spirit' who enjoys drinking to excess, dressing up, and seeking male attention. Her perfect weekend involves 'gallons of rose and full sex with a fit bloke,' along with dancing, live music, and a few snogs. She suspects her friends are jealous of her looks and ability to attract men.
Jane's Straight-Talking Response
Jane advises that the friends' concerns are understandable, given the potential dangers of sex with strangers and excessive drinking. She notes that friends may fear for her safety, especially if they are the ones helping her home. Jane also highlights the matter of reputation, stating that friends are entitled to speak out if they feel tainted by her behaviour.
Jane warns that the friends could walk away, and the reader should not push her luck or she may find herself friendless. She urges the reader to use condoms, consider cleaning up her act, and take the friends' comments on board.
Social Media Political Posts
Another reader reveals she has started ignoring an old friend on social media due to political posts she disagrees with. The friend keeps asking why she doesn't 'like' or comment on her posts, creating an awkward situation.
Jane advises the reader not to feel guilty for controlling her own life and that she is not obliged to like or agree with the friend's content. She suggests levelling with the friend, making it clear she isn't ruled by social media and doesn't appreciate the challenging content. Jane asks if this is a friendship breaker, concluding that the friend deserves the truth.
