Daily Star's agony aunt Jane O'Gorman offers straight-talking advice to readers facing personal dilemmas, from family hypocrisy over a partner's career to struggling relationships.
Double Trouble: Brother's Hypocrisy
A reader, identified as 'Double trouble', writes that his brother disapproves of his girlfriend being a part-time escort. The reader finds this hypocritical because the brother once paid for her services, only discovering her profession when he met her in a hotel room. Despite this, he proceeded with the sexual encounter.
The reader states he has no issue with his girlfriend's profession, describing their relationship as open and honest. They have been together for two years, and he accepts her sexual prowess as a talent. He questions his brother's judgment and asks Jane if she is comfortable with the situation, urging consideration of sexual health, reputation, safety, and mental health.
Jane advises the reader to keep talking to his brother, reminding him that no one is perfect and that the girlfriend believes she offers a valuable service. She suggests reassuring the brother that his secret is safe, as he may be worried about family or friends discovering his past encounter.
Barking Mad: Relationship Struggles
Another reader, 'Barking mad', describes a partner with whom he has no sex life and he pays for everything. She borrows money from his parents, which angers him. He feels he has much to offer a decent partner but fears leaving her would mean losing their two dogs, as she might move back with an ex-lover.
Jane advises that he cannot base his happiness solely on the dogs and suggests shared custody. She encourages him to level with his partner about his unhappiness and propose a fresh start, or accept the relationship may be over. She notes the partner may be depressed, given her anger and financial struggles. Jane recommends speaking to a GP for support, eating well, avoiding alcohol, and exercising to feel stronger. She reminds him of the Samaritans helpline at 116 123.
