Daily Star's agony aunt Jane O'Gorman offers straight-talking advice to readers facing relationship dilemmas, including secret same-sex encounters, a partner's lingering attachment to an ex, a dispute over selling the family home, and a cheating boyfriend.
Secret Bisexuality and Guilt
A woman confesses to secretly having sex with other women behind her boyfriend's back. She admits to fantasising about women during intimacy with her partner and recently slept with a bride-to-be during a work residential. She feels confused about her next steps, fearing her family's reaction to a female partner.
Jane advises that cheating is wrong regardless of the gender involved, and urges her to be honest with her boyfriend about her true attractions. She suggests waiting until she is single before pursuing same-sex love, and encourages her to be true to herself despite family disapproval.
Rebound Relationship Tensions
Another reader is angry that her partner remains in contact with his ex, causing arguments. She discovered intimate messages on his phone and wants to give him an ultimatum, but fears he will choose his ex.
Jane says the man may have unfinished business with his ex and that the reader should talk to him face-to-face, explaining she cannot cope with the situation. She questions what keeps him with her and advises that he cannot have it both ways.
Dispute Over Selling Family Home
A man wants to sell his large five-bedroom house to help his grown-up children get on the housing ladder, but his wife is furious and threatens divorce if he goes ahead. She believes the children should stand on their own feet.
Jane suggests that if he values his marriage, he should accept this battle is not winnable, as the home is his wife's sanctuary. She advises talking to the children about other options and consulting an independent financial advisor, but not pushing his wife too far.
Cheating Partner with Rich Widow
A woman is devastated to learn her partner of 35 has been having an affair with a rich 50-year-old widow in Paris, who gives him money. He has not agreed to stop seeing her.
Jane says the relationship sounds doomed if he won't cut off the affair, and questions whether the woman truly knows her partner at all.
