A Reddit post from a 36-year-old man claiming that most women he'd been intimate with engaged in 'pussy slapping' has ignited a debate among women, with reactions ranging from enjoyment to outright refusal.
The act, popular in porn, involves tapping or slapping the vulva with a hand or penis, with varying pressure. While some women find it pleasurable, others describe it as painful and off-putting.
Mixed Reactions from Women
One woman recounted a negative experience: 'I had a male date surprise me by doing this while we were getting hot and heavy. No warning whatsoever. Just slapped. I pulled the brakes and left.'
Another admitted, 'I don't like a slap because I don't like pain at all, especially on my most sensitive parts during sex. It will dry me up like the desert.'
However, some women praised the act. One said, 'It's like spanking... If done at the right time with the right pressure, it's just a different sensation that causes that mix of pleasure and pain. It's not for everyone.' Another added, 'It doesn't hurt, it really does help with the climax. I often do it with a magic wand during solo play.'
Experts Weigh In on the Trend
Psychosexual therapist Becky Crepsley-Fox told Metro that 'pussy slapping' is a popular motif in explicit content, often in scenes where men are dominant. She noted, 'Some women may have been curious about this since adolescence, but for many, the interest is likely a learned behaviour picked up from porn.'
Sexologist Ness Cooper highlighted the risks: 'If it's too hard, it can lead to unwanted bruising and swelling. This can make other sexual acts uncomfortable and can also take time to heal and make moving and sitting painful.'
Safety Guidelines for Trying It
For those curious, Becky advises starting gently and communicating throughout. 'Make sure to trim fingernails and take off rings to avoid catching delicate skin, then get into a comfortable position where it's easy to make contact. Use lube so nothing drags or rubs. Aim for the fleshy outer lips, not the bony pubic area.'
She concluded, 'Curiosity is completely normal, and so is deciding it isn't for you. Treat it like any new sensation: talk first, start gently, and check in.'
