A therapist has explained why they sometimes advise couples to end their marriage, a stance that challenges the common assumption that the goal of therapy is always to keep the relationship together.
Why Ending a Marriage Can Be the Right Outcome
In a recent opinion piece, the therapist argued that staying in a marriage is not always the healthiest option. They said that while many couples seek therapy hoping to repair their relationship, sometimes the most compassionate and realistic recommendation is to separate.
The therapist emphasized that a good therapist should not be biased toward preserving the marriage at all costs. Instead, the focus should be on the well-being of both individuals, which may mean helping them navigate a respectful and thoughtful divorce.
What Therapy Really Should Achieve
The piece suggests that therapy should help couples clarify what they truly want and whether the relationship can meet their needs. If fundamental incompatibilities or persistent unhappiness are present, the therapist may guide them toward ending the marriage rather than prolonging distress.
This approach, the therapist says, is about honesty and care. It acknowledges that divorce can sometimes be a positive step toward a better life for both partners, rather than a failure.
The article concludes by urging couples to be open to this possibility and to trust that a skilled therapist will help them find the best path forward, even if that path leads away from the marriage.
