Denzel, 46, and Sarita, 44, both left sexless marriages before meeting online two years ago. Together, they have discovered a deeply fulfilling sex life characterized by open communication, toys, and Tantric practices.
From Sexless Marriage to Sexual Freedom
Denzel was married for almost 20 years, but the relationship broke down and became sexless toward the end. After the divorce, he ensured he was mentally ready to move forward. “I made sure I was mentally ready to move forward and happy in myself, and wasn’t coming into a new relationship with too much baggage,” he said. Sarita also came out of a sexless marriage. Her ex admitted he no longer found her attractive after she gained weight, leaving her feeling “disgusting, undesirable and completely rejected.” She also handled all childcare, housework, and emotional support, and was determined not to be with someone who drained her.
Open Communication and Body Positivity
From the start, Denzel and Sarita have been very open about sex. “Nothing is taboo and there’s no judgment,” Denzel said. He reassures Sarita about her body insecurities, telling her every part he likes, including her feet and the spot above her bum she considers flab. “I find her sexy and I love her for who she is,” he said. Sarita noted, “From the beginning Denzel would tell me every single part of my body that he liked… I feel really cared for and loved.”
Exploring New Sexual Experiences
Sarita introduced Denzel to Tantric sex and toys. “She’s brought a different side to my life I didn’t know existed,” Denzel said. They tried Tantric sex where they stared at each other. “It was weird at first, but then I felt this emotion I’d never felt before, like I wanted to cry.” They also enjoy massages, mirror sex, and shopping for toys together. Sarita bought Denzel nipple clamps, and he was very into it. “I don’t feel like anything’s out of bounds,” she said.
Frequent and Sensual Sex Life
Although they live separately, they have sex about six times a week. “Most times we meet we’ll have sex,” Denzel said. “It’s always sensual and never feels rushed.” They talk about sex openly, as casually as discussing dinner. “We talk about sex like we talk about what we’re having for dinner,” Sarita added.
Impact on Overall Relationship
Denzel believes Sarita has helped him understand himself sexually. “I think Sarita has helped me understand myself, sexually,” he said. The couple works well as a team both in and out of the bedroom. “We’ve been together for two years, and have our individual lives, but we come together and work well as a team, both in and out of the bedroom,” Denzel said.
