Wife's Affair Exposed at Husband's Barbecue
A woman confesses to having an affair with a local guy for months, unable to resist his advances. Her husband organized a barbecue, and the lover showed up uninvited. After drinking cider, they had sex in the garage while the husband cooked sausages. The woman's brother caught them and told the family, leaving her as 'public enemy number one'.
Jane O'Gorman advises that messing on your own doorstep is never a good look. She questions whether the husband is willing to forgive or if the marriage is over. Jane suggests the woman speak to her GP if alcohol is a problem and own her behavior, considering if the suburban life is right for her.
Husband Denied Access to Joint Account
A man writes that he and his wife have a joint account, but he has no way to access funds. His wife gives him a weekly cash allowance for petrol and coffees, claiming he doesn't need a card. Colleagues laugh at him for lacking spare cash. He wants to address this without starting a row.
Jane says the man and his wife are equal partners and he is entitled to a rethink. She advises him to make it clear he needs additional funds for independence and suggests contacting the bank for his own debit card. She questions if his wife is generally controlling.
Friend Goes Silent After Making Plans
A woman's oldest friend has been ignoring her since March after suggesting outings to the seaside, Tower of London, and the zoo. The woman agreed but hasn't heard from her since, wondering what she did wrong.
Jane suggests visiting the friend face-to-face, sending an email or letter, or asking others what might be happening. If the woman is sure she did nothing wrong, she may need to wait for the friend to reach out.
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