London's underground sex scene is thriving post-pandemic, with a new golden era of parties, clubs, and kink spaces that cater to diverse desires.
The New Hedonism
At a recent Killing Kittens event in a Covent Garden spa, guests in masks engaged in various sexual activities, from snogging in the jacuzzi to more explicit acts in dark rooms. Emma Sayle, who founded the community in 2005, aimed to empower women to explore their sexuality without judgement. The pandemic boosted interest, with over 40,000 membership requests from single women alone. Sayle noted that Covid was a wake-up call, making people realize that letting fear and shame hold them back is not an option.
Sober Kink and Queer Spaces
In Dalston, STÜCK offers a sober co-working and adult playground, with membership at £45 per month. Co-founder Hanny Amin describes it as a quiet space for concentration, where sex is allowed but not the focus. The venue hosts events like handstand workshops and panel talks, and is crowdfunding for a sauna. Miss Masochist, founder of the sober party Lucid, emphasizes that no drugs or alcohol makes parties safer, allowing for riskier sensory play.
Queer and FLINTA-focused parties like One Night and Riot Party are also flourishing. Riot Party co-founder Maedb Joy says they mix politics into their programming, working with sex worker performers and POC FLINTA DJs. Attendee Sasha, a 29-year-old NGO worker, found the parties helped them explore their gender identity, providing a space to meet other non-binary and trans people.
Historical Roots and Modern Evolution
London's sex party scene has deep roots, from Roman-era erotic temples in Southwark to Victorian pleasure gardens. Today, events are often pioneered by women and marginalised communities, with a strong emphasis on consent and inclusivity. The A-Z guide lists venues like Club Antichrist, Le Boudoir, and the Hellfire Club, as well as newer additions like STÜCK.
