A man is feeling deeply uncomfortable after his flatmate suggested he have sex with his girlfriend while he watches – but he doesn't fancy her and worries saying no will cause an awkward atmosphere at home.
The Awkward Proposal
My attractive flatmate and his girlfriend are both bisexual and sexually adventurous. Recently, he proposed that I sleep with his girlfriend while he watches. However, I'm not attracted to her and can't think of anything worse than seeing him aroused. I'm afraid to refuse in case it creates an uncomfortable atmosphere or makes me appear uncool.
Jane's Advice
JANE SAYS: Inform your flatmate that free love isn't for you. He might be framing this as a gift, but he comes across as predatory and unreliable. Don't let this couple entice you into any sexual activity that feels wrong. Is it time to start searching for a new place to live? I believe it is.
Another Dilemma: Wanted for My Money
My lover is only around when I’ve got cash to spend. My work is up and down. Some months I earn enough to get by. Other times I am proper minted. It hurts that she flutters around me like a moth to a flame when I have dosh to splash. She brazenly rings me every day to ask me how I’m doing (i.e. how much I’m earning) and then swoops when I reveal I’ve hit the jackpot. She knows that she’ll be in for hotel breaks, cocktails, and gifts all the way. The rest of the time she hangs out with her friends, and I barely see her.
Jane's Advice on Money Matters
JANE SAYS: You work hard and are not obliged to share your wealth with anyone. You may have known your girl for a while, and shared some fun times in the past, but she is not your responsibility. Not only is she a user and an opportunist, but she doesn’t have any respect for you or your money. What about saving for a rainy day? What about saving for the future so that your life isn’t quite so up and down? I suggest you start as you mean to go on. Unless you break this pattern, then this leech is going to bleed you dry forever.
