Daily Star agony aunt Jane O'Gorman tackles readers' problems, offering straight-talking advice on love, marriage, and sex. In her latest column, she addresses three distinct issues: a mother concerned about her daughter's affair with a married man, a wife worried about her husband's shady dealings, and a man struggling with low libido.
Mother's Riot Act Backfires
A mother writes that her late-twenties daughter is involved with a married lover twice her age. The man visits her for drinks and sex while his wife is away. The mother confronted her daughter, calling her desperate and telling her she deserves better. The daughter stormed off and is now ignoring calls. The mother considers telling the wife everything.
Jane advises against intervening further. She says the daughter is a grown woman entitled to make mistakes. The mother should apologize, respect her daughter's privacy, and promise not to comment on her private life. Telling the wife is not her call.
Wife Discovers Husband's Ruthless Schemes
A woman married for six months realizes her husband is ruthless. He lies, makes her feel bad for challenging him, badgers friends for loans, and asked her brother to invest in a dubious scheme. Friends have stopped inviting them over.
Jane says the wife cannot change her husband unless he wants to change. She advises trusting instincts and writing down everything that bothers her about him. If he doesn't accept anything is wrong, she may decide he's not for her. Admitting a mistake is not shameful.
Man Loses Interest in Sex
A man has no appetite for sex with his girlfriend, causing her frustration and tears. He fears she will leave.
Jane recommends honesty and seeking professional help. She lists potential causes: obesity, diabetes, drug abuse, depression, stress, or negative childhood experiences. She suggests making sex a priority again by booking date nights and scheduling early bedtimes, recreating early relationship habits.
