A husband who enjoys wife-swapping with his best mate says his grieving father-in-law is ruining his sex life. The man, married for nearly eight years, describes his relationship as phenomenal until recently, with mind-blowing sex and adventurous encounters including swapping partners and group sex with his best friend and his wife. However, since his mother-in-law died unexpectedly in January, his father-in-law has been spending increasing time at their flat, putting a halt to their wild sex life.
Father-in-law overstays welcome
The husband explains that his wife is reluctant to have even basic sex when her dad is staying because the walls are paper thin. Their adventures with the other couple have also been put on hold. He says, 'I have a high sex drive and this deterioration in our love life is not making me at all happy. It’s been six months now and although she keeps promising things will change, they never do.' He admits a female colleague has shown interest and he feels tempted to have an affair.
Laura Collins advises patience
Columnist Laura Collins advises against a fling, warning it would replace one problem with another. She urges the husband to show sympathy for his father-in-law, noting that six months is not long in grief. She suggests talking to his wife about how he feels, and encouraging her to help her dad rebuild his life by contacting the Cruse Bereavement Helpline and local support groups. Collins also questions whether the wife might be using her father's presence as an excuse to step back from a sex life she is not as keen on, advising the husband to listen to her needs.
Communication key to resolution
Collins concludes that if both partners are equally enthusiastic, their sex adventures can resume once the father-in-law spends less time at their place. She emphasizes understanding and patience in the meantime.
