Daily Star agony aunt Jane O'Gorman is on hand daily to address readers' issues with direct, practical advice. From bedroom concerns to self-confidence and other topics, she has assisted thousands of readers and continues to do so.
Readers seeking help can write to Just Jane, Daily Star, One Canada Square, London, E145AP, or email jane.ogorman@reachplc.com. Jane cannot respond to individual letters, and not all problems will be published.
Grieving widow struggles with intimacy
A reader who cared for her sister until her death last year now finds her sex life with her husband has suffered. She and her husband sleep in separate beds, and she feels self-conscious about her body. She recalls their past adventurous intimacy, including an incident in a neighbour's son's tree house.
The reader also suffers from vaginal dryness and wonders whether she should divorce her husband so he can find a "sexier" woman. She worries he deserves someone "hotter and hornier."
Jane advises accepting that both are still grieving, which explains the lack of intimacy. She notes several causes of vaginal dryness, including guilt, worry, lack of arousal, and relationship problems. She suggests open communication, considering getting fit together, returning to basics in the bedroom, and using a water-soluble lubricant from a pharmacy. She emphasises the importance of foreplay and recommends speaking to a GP for professional help or considering grief counselling through Cruse Bereavement Support (cruse.org.uk).
Sister's insults cause rift
Another reader describes her sister as a "high-flyer" with a business and "perfect children," while the reader lives a chaotic but happy life with her boyfriend and cats. The sister recently called the cats "disgusting" and "smelly" during a takeaway visit, and later called the reader a "disaster zone."
Jane says the sister's manners are poor and that she needs to be told to "get over herself." If she won't admit her mistake, the reader should ask for a cooling-off period. Jane suggests the sister might be jealous of the reader's simpler life and happiness, and recommends sitting down to ask about pressures she may be under, possibly related to work.
