A man in his 30s is grappling with an awkward situation after a close friend's wife attempted to kiss him while his wife and her husband were making coffee in another room. The incident occurred during a night out with another couple, with whom they are planning a holiday next month.
What Happened
The man and his wife went out for drinks with their friends to discuss holiday arrangements. After getting quite drunk, the couple came back to the man's house to stay overnight. While his wife and the husband were in the kitchen trying out a new coffee machine, the man was left alone on the sofa with the wife, who leaned in and tried to kiss him. He immediately moved away and got up just as the others returned with drinks.
The Dilemma
The man is conflicted about how to proceed. He wonders whether the woman's actions were simply due to intoxication or if she has romantic intentions. He wishes they could drop out of the holiday but fears that telling his wife would end her friendship with the woman and cause problems with the husband. He insists he loves his wife and would never cheat.
Coleen's Advice
Agony aunt Coleen Nolan suggests that if the woman was very drunk, she might be feeling embarrassed and regretful. If not for the upcoming holiday, Coleen might advise letting it go. However, given the trip, she recommends pulling the woman aside beforehand and saying: “I’m putting what happened the other night down to being very drunk, but just wanted to say it can’t happen again because I’m happily married and not interested in anyone else.”
Coleen emphasizes that if the behavior recurs or the woman indicates she likes him, he must be clear that it will never happen. She advises ending the couples' friendship, though he can still see the husband individually. On holiday, he should avoid any flirtatious behavior and be mindful of alcohol consumption.
Key Points
- The incident happened while the man's wife and the woman's husband were in the kitchen.
- The man moved away immediately and did not reciprocate.
- He is worried about the impact on friendships and the upcoming holiday.
- Coleen suggests addressing it privately before the trip and ending couples' activities.
